Recently out of the blue I got a phone call and text that should’ve really made me happy.
Without giving too many details, let’s just say that a little bit of karma that I have been hoping for happened in an unexpected way from someone who hurt me very much. And it was relayed to me in an unexpected way from someone very close to her.
I had thought I would feel more satisfaction from learning this information, but it left me feeling numb, because I just don’t care about the players involved anymore. I’ve moved on.
You know you’re over a painful situation when you stop caring about those who caused you pain. And that’s the best karma of all.
I used to ask myself why bad things happen to good people, and while I don’t know the answer to that, I do know that life works in mysterious ways and that everyone eventually has to face their truth and the consequences of their actions.
I’d like to say that I’m a bigger and better person for forgiving people who’ve done me wrong, but in this case, I will never forgive this person or myself for having such bad judgment in allowing her into my inner circle and trusting her.
There were red flags about her from day one, but I ignored them, and it cost me dearly in the end. I was the one who invited her into my social circle and the one who wound up being betrayed by her the most.
So many of the things that happened between us now make sense. Things she did to provoke me and wreck havoc in my life. At the time, I didn’t see it and I was clueless. Her betrayal was insidious. She was in my inner circle and was using inside information about me to harm me to everyone in my life. I know this sounds like it could be the plot of a Lifetime movie.
She would pit friends against each other and plant malicious gossip or half truths with various people. I don’t think she ever thought we would all figure it out but we did. She singlehandedly destroyed our friend group and she tried to destroy my life.
I write about mean girls a lot – because they are everywhere – throughout your life. I am shocked I fell for this one. The lies she spread about me were intended to cause my friends to turn against me. And some of them did. Even my significant other at the time believed some of her fabrications. I still to this day do not know why she did it except to cause drama.
There will always be people who did you wrong in life, and while you shouldn’t ever forget what they did to you, you should also let go of the grudges you hold. They can hold you back from being happy. I don’t forgive the person who deliberately caused drama in my life for fun, but I know she has to face her truth and has destroyed her life – there’s only so many times you can run from who you really are.
Have pity for people like this, they burn bridges left and right and move through friends circles every couple of years when people find out who they really are. I’ve had the same friends for most of my life and while I lost a few friends over the last few years, they were not true friends.
Toxic people like her are not able to accept responsibility what they’ve done wrong or for the havoc they’ve caused in their own life and others’ that caused people stop speaking to them. This woman blames everyone else for why people no longer speak to her – but the common denominator is always her.
I can only say that if you see a “friend” exhibiting signs of jealousy or gossip you should run for the hills. The best thing I did was to cut out her toxicity from my life. Frenemies are dangerous.
Eventually everything comes full circle. And karma really does catch up with people. Keep your head high and surround yourself with people who love you and run away from those who don’t.
I will harness the power of my intuition going forward so I never make a mistake like that again.